What is more important for people love or money?
My first thought is love. Of course!:)What would be a life without love. From the youngest age, when I was a little girl I wanted to have my prince - of course I considered myself a princess:P
There are people who cannot live without love. They would do everything to keep the affection alive. They support and care about each other. When they marry they do it consciously. They know that they want to be together no matter what.
On the other hand, one has to admit that we live in a world obsessed with wealth. For some people love is not so important, at least they claim so. What they care about the most is money. So they focus on their careers claiming that they don’t have time for love.
Working is also very important. It requires a person to be active. For me the worst thing is stagnation. Progress at work motivates us, it makes the purpose of life, which is extremely important for a comfortable and peaceful living. Of course you need to keep balance.
There are also those, who think that money can buy you love. They pay other persons not just for sex but for the whole „relationship”, they become sponsors.
It is quite a difficult subject. The best thing is to have it both, right?
Does money effect love? Or is it the other way around? What is more important for you?
If you want to learn more about this subject you can watch a documentary by Cherry Healey, which is called „Cherry Healey: how to get a life: Love &Money”.
Here is the sneak peak:
http://www.channelhook.net/video/pl.php?url=4D3F01E05CEF5C3B
I am married for a few months already. And it's difficult. When we argue, it's mostly about the money. We do earn just enough for a living, and sometimes for something more, like a dinner, or something. Doesn't matter, why we earn little, or quiet more but we do have some extra unexpected expenses.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, we are working on it. We wouldn't, we would split up a long time ago, if we would only think about money. It just frustrates us, that we don't know, if we will afford food until the next payement, if we would have to visit our parents again, for small dinner contribution or something. It's exhausting... but we figuered: hey, it's just money. We'll be fine. We love each other very much, and if money is problem, wwe're finding some extra jobs, to bring it little bit more. But most important thing is, that we support each other, no matter what....
Have you ever heard about Harvard Grant? It's one of the longest research tests in the history of psychology. It lasted 75 years and gathered 268 students of Harvard. They were regularly tested over years and the results show the one and only conclusion: it's only love that matters... At least when it comes to long-lasting happiness and satisfaction.
ReplyDeleteOne of the directors of this studies, psychiatrist George Vaillant said (as it's stated in Huffington Post) there are two pillars of happinnes. One of them is love, and the second one is finding a certain way of living which does not reject the love given. One of the tested students started the whole project with the lowest notes in "stabilisation" category, but he finished the research as one of the happiest. He lived his whole life searching for love.
I'm happily married for few months now and I strongly feel how it affects every other aspect of my life. I'm a very nervous person with tendencies to quickly fall in all kinds of paranoia and storms of worries, but - like a huge paradox - my heart is the only thing able to calm me down. I strongly believe that whether it's the love that is or the love that will be, everyone should focus on one of them.
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Besides, it's easier to afford expensive goodies when you have the second credit card available. LOL!
Martyna: lucky. We have one credit card, and it's maxed out, ha ha ha
ReplyDeleteIt seems to be pretty obvious that any kind of deep relationship - no matter what it is: family, close friends, partners - is essential for everyone. We're not made to live in loneliness but we are biologically prepared to be a part of a society or a group. We're all yearning for love, even if we don't admit it.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time, the world we live in don't let us survive without money. Money is crucial in everyday life, no matter what you say. Financial stability actually helps building strong relationship with your partner or family. If you have a good job and enough money, you don't have to worry and can focus on the things that really matters. But it cuts both ways - when you're deeply in love you don't think that often about the number on your account. When you're in love money is of less importance but when you lack money for basic needs, love may be at risk.
Eventually, the secret is to find balance between love and work/money. Money can buy many things but they can only buy you an illusion of love or happiness. Unfortunately many people learn it the hard way.
For me it’s hard to decide what is more important money or love. Money affects love and vice a versa. It’s easier to love without worrying about money. Money has impact on every domain in life. It can either bring people together or separate them. Of course, if you really love each other, eventually your love can overcome everything. It won’t be easy but it’s possible. Hard times are those times when we especially need a loving person. However, not everyone can sacrifice him or herself for another person. It’s nothing bad. Not having any money is very stressful. It can even affect your health, for instance, when you are seriously sick and you cannot afford a good doctor. Ongoing problems with money create everyday stress and tension, and it creeps on relationship like a shadow.
ReplyDeleteIt is so beautiful, a true Polish phrase from the movie. Money isn't everything but everything without money is a ****. You know ;). Of course, that love is the most important thing in the world. But love is not to eat, we don't pay housing and studies for our children. The lack of any cause extreme discomfort in life. Both things are very important, and I think it is hard to say which is more important.
ReplyDeleteApproach depends on particular person and its character (experience?). In my case some serious love story could complicate present way of living and goals that I set up for the nearest time. I have some friends which live together and it seems that this status will last for rest of their lifes, in other hand sometimes people sacrifice whole their life for something that leads to huge disaster. And here we have money aspect. When someone has that money, there is bigger chance for fast recovery after end of relation end establishment of normal life again. When work and career were being neglected because of relationship, it can be difficult to get good level of life - especially with kind of trauma after brake up.
ReplyDeleteThat is really interesting topic. I believe in love. I live with my girlfriend for few years now. There was time when she did not have a job. And we never had any problems with that. It is true that you have to spend your money more wisely, but we never had any problems with that. We do not care as much about money. I always say. Mony is only money you can earn them, you can get them. They are today they might be not there tomorrow. We live in corporated word in system of taxation. We need money to live but we don't live for money. I live to act. To love and to go after my dreams, money can help to achieve many things but they would never give you happiness. I have many wealthy friends that had few tragedy in their lives and the money they have, cars, business they dont give them happiness.
ReplyDeleteI love Cherry Healey she is great!
ReplyDeleteOf course both at the same time an ideal state.
Unfortunately, it often does not go hand in hand...
What is more important to me? It depends on what stage of life I am. I will say that love often works just as motivating as money and vice versa.
I will not say which is more important because someone close to me could feel offended :D
I do not believe that one does not imply the other because life itself is an example of the relationships of men 60 years old and 20 year girls. Sad but true.
Interesting topic, not difficult, but certainly very personal.
My first thought - of corse LOVE! Money is important in everyones life and Yes, we argue about them a lot. But the most beautiful thing is that, despite of fighting each other, we are still together. We love our partner no mather what. Even if the biggest problem is "no money", people dont want to be separate. It's better to deal with it, beeing in a full of love relationship. When you lose your job, partner support is irreplaceable.
ReplyDeleteI value love much more than money.
There are two ways of looking at it:
ReplyDelete1. someone smart once told me, that the less you have, the happier you are and the more likely you are to appreciate the people around you for who they are and what they are giving you. So it's also easier to truly love someone for who they are.
2. If you're making money, you're likely doing something interesting that makes making money just a by-product of it - so you do have passions. Other people are much more attracted to those people, not only their money, but their passionate way of living life.
I believe that you can combine those two, you can be passionate about your life and interests so money is a by-product you are getting, while appreciating everything you have, which comes from passion for life. Unless you are showing-off with your money (which you shouldn't ever do) at that point you are attracting similar minded people, and it's easier for you to find a soul-mate, which for most people is what they believe true love is.
Kasia Kmieć – well said! There is no life without love and friendship. We’re gregarious animals, used to living among relatives and close ones.
ReplyDeleteWealth is relative. It changes when you compare yourself with others. I’ve been to Sweden recently, and I had a long conversation with Poles that have lived in Stockholm for 30 years. People are equal there! They all have a good standard of living, there’s no poverty and no multibillionaires. It’s all regulated by the government. The unemployed live on social security, which means they get the same amount of money as a high-earning person in Warsaw earns monthly.
On the other hand, people who earn very, very much pay very high taxes and will never be as rich as, let’s say, individuals in Russia. Some people pay a 90% tax.
I was amazed at first, and asked if the high-earners didn’t rebel against such rules – they must support the unemployed (including immigrants). The answer was no! It turns out that this system is perfect; social equality increases Gross National Happiness the most!
However, they still suffer from depression caused by long nights and low temperature.
I’d rather live in Spain :D