Social life is among the most important things in our lives. Yet, there
are so many unwritten, sometimes even unspoken rules that shape our behavior.
But the worst thing that can happen is irreversible damage as an aftershock of
failing to comply or blindly going forward.
Below are set of rules (no particular order) that can help you achieve
what you want, when you want.
Rule No 1 - If you
want positive feedback, nod while talking
This is one of the most powerful, yet unutilized life hacks. It is a bit
manipulative, so use it at your own discretion and responsibility.
Getting positive feedback is something everyone wants as a result of a
conversation. It doesn’t matter if we want to promote a viewpoint, increase our
salary or make a sale, nodding while delivering a message can go a long way. It
makes the other person mimic what you do and nod along with you while you talk.
This reaction will start a positive feeling and give their brain a “hidden”
message to agree with what you’re saying.
Rule No 2 – Be
comfortable in any situation
Our brains are very complicated and secretive organs. We can even say
that the relationship we have with our brain is more of a hate or love one.
Although there are many unconscious “suggestions” from our brains, we fail to
understand most of them.
In most social situations, like meeting a new person, talking to your
manager etc. our brain tries to put us in a protective shell. It does not help us
much. Giving our brain command to feel like you already know the person you’re
talking to puts you at an advantage. It even increases chances of people
showing interest in what you’re talking about and/or even liking you.
Rule No 3 – Pay
attention to the way people set their feet
As You would imagine, interrupting someone while they’re in the middle
of a very important conversation can be annoying. It shows Your lack of social
skills as well as no social dynamics knowledge.
How can You differentiate whether or not You are welcomed to join the
conversation? Pay attention to their feet and bodies. When You approach a group
of talking people, if they turn only their bodies not feet, you are not
welcomed
Rule No 4 – Start Your
favors with “I need Your help”
It is obvious that we like to get others to do things for us. No one
likes rude people, but when you start a sentence with “I need your help”, in
most cases at least, people will accept you request. This happens because
people don’t feel comfortable for not helping out. They will feel
guilty. People like to help. In most cases…
Rule No 5 – Trouble
remembering people’s names? Repeat repeat repeat
Personally, I’m terrible at remembering names. Most of the time my brain
shuts down when people say their name. A lot of buddies, dudes, bros, friends
etc.
What can You do in such a situation? Ask our friend to introduce himself
or herself to the group? Awkward.
Remembering names is very important as we feel more important when
someone mentions our name. What you can do is start repeating their name in a
conversation. Example: “Hi, my name is Kasia -> Nice to meet You Kasia ->
So, Kasia, how do you know XXXXX?” and then try to repeat their name throughout
the conversation.
Rule No 6 – Want
someone to answer your question fully? Silence is key
Silence is a weapon. If someone finishes his/her answer without
providing full feedback just wait, stay silent and keep an eye contact. The
tension will grow and the pressure on the other person will grow as well. If it
goes for far to long, raise your eyebrows. It puts even bigger pressure on
them, but it shows that you are still interested in the answer. On the other
hand, it also shows that you are a person that usually gets what you want.
There You have it. Some of the psychological life hacks that will help you
in getting an advantage in social interactions. And as someone said sometime –
“Use your knowledge wisely”
Questions?
1)
What are your
life hacks?
2)
What is your
favorite color?
3)
What do you
think about dying rain forests?
4)
Were you
aware of such social interaction tweaks?
5)
Knowing
them, will you use them for Your advantage?
Soruces:
1) http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Observer/Pix/pictures/2012/6/29/1340992572775/self-help-graphic-007.jpg
2) http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0k7xz3dr31qarksao1_500.jpg
3) http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a4/Ballet_Feet_Fifth_Position.JPG
4) http://evelinruns.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Will-You-Help-Me.jpg
5) http://ucandostuff.ph/FrameWork/Upload/StepImage_c634290a-776e-46dc-98cc-2459fcb04674_big.jpg
6) http://www.nonprofithub.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/asking-for-donations-silence.jpg
7) http://www.highexistence.com/25-psychological-life-hacks-help-gain-advantage-social-situations/
Soruces:
1) http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Observer/Pix/pictures/2012/6/29/1340992572775/self-help-graphic-007.jpg
2) http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0k7xz3dr31qarksao1_500.jpg
3) http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a4/Ballet_Feet_Fifth_Position.JPG
5) http://ucandostuff.ph/FrameWork/Upload/StepImage_c634290a-776e-46dc-98cc-2459fcb04674_big.jpg
6) http://www.nonprofithub.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/asking-for-donations-silence.jpg
7) http://www.highexistence.com/25-psychological-life-hacks-help-gain-advantage-social-situations/












